I am sure that you have heard someone say that œlife is a dance.  What did they really mean?  Or, was it just something that sounded good and, maybe, even a little mysterious.  Country singer John Michael Montgomery says it this way;  œLifes a dance, you learn as you go.  Sometimes you lead, sometimes you follow.”

Consider that life is a perfect dance.  Our relationship to our circumstances has us react.  Reaction is automatic and always the same.  So we have a dance that is perfect for the circumstances we face.  I am not judging or evaluationg the dance.  It is just what it is.

œSo whaat are some of the circumstances that create the dance?, you ask.  Or, you didnt. Either way lets take a peek at some.  You may want to dance to a new tune once you can hear the old one.

One of the dances we seem to be in, a lot, is called RESISTANCE.  The more we resist the more the circumstance persists.  Take some behavior by your œsignificant other that you think should be different than it is.  The more you resist it, the bigger it gets until you can hardly see anything else.  When you met and fell in love it was a tiny beauty mark.  Your resistance to her being herself now has it look like a giant wart.  When things are out of sorts ask yourself what am I resisting?

The dance isnt just about personal relationships.  It is about everything.  Here are a few other ways you can check it out.

RESISTANCE vs. FLOW

If I throw you in the river (the one you are already in) you have 3 choices:

  1. Swim upstream (We know how that will go)
  2. Just go wherever the river takes us (what about the rocks and the   rapids?)
  3. Use the rivers power but paddle hard hare and there, pole a little, find  the best channels

STUCK IN WHAT WE KNOW vs. INQUIRY

It is OK to get an answer as long as you ask œWhat else is their? right after.

EXPECTATION vs. INTENTION

Expectation is a trap.  Too much knowing about what the result must be and the process to get there.  With Intention, I know where I am headed and will figure out how to get there as I go.  Being open that it could look a variety of ways.

There are more but you willl have to do our MASTERS COURSE to get them.

Sometimes the biggest problem is figuring out what the Dance is.  Wherever you might be suffering in look at what happened and what you made it mean that it happened.

Things that happen have no inherent meaning.  We give it meaning and that meaning can only apply in three places.  It means something about:

  • Them”Whoever else is involved
  • Me
  • The event itself

Instead of going down that path, ask your self this:

– What did I learn?

– Given what I learned, what action will I take and œby when?

Too simple?  Maybe life is simple and you and I complicate it.  Have a wonderful day.